Be Encouraged: Stop looking in your rearview mirror
by Donell Maxie
May 29, 2011 | 716 views | 0 0 comments | 8 8 recommendations | email to a friend | print
If you are able to drive, legally, then you are more than familiar with the rearview mirror.

This instrument is usually affixed to the top of the windshield on a swivel mount allowing it to be freely rotated. The main purpose of the rearview mirror is to allow the driver the ability to see what is going on behind him.

For cars, bicycles and motorcycles this tool is very valuable when moving forward, but when it comes to your life it’s very difficult to move to your future when you are constantly looking in your rearview at what’s going on behind you or in other words, your past.

For most of us we tend to hold on to what we have been through. We wear our past hurts like an old comfortable shirt that we just can’t get rid of. All too often we allow what we have experienced to determine who we are and how much we can be.

Everytime we are face with a challenge we pull out that rearview mirror and began to look back at all the hurt and disappointments that broke us down and we dwell on it. We allow our fears from those experience to take control and hinder us in our present.

I don’t know what you have personally experienced, but I do know that it’s time to put down the mirror and let it go.

We’ve all been hurt by another person at some time or another — we were treated badly, trust was broken, hearts were hurt.

And while this pain is normal, sometimes that pain lingers for too long. We relive the pain over and over, and have a hard time letting go.

This causes problems. It not only causes us to be unhappy, but can strain or ruin relationships, distract us from work and family and other important things, make us reluctant to open up to new things and people. We get trapped in a cycle of anger and hurt, and miss out on the beauty of life as it happens.

We need to learn to let go. We need to be able to forgive, so we can move on and be happy.

In my life I came to learn after years of holding onto anger at a loved one that stemmed from my childhood and teen-age years, that I had to put down my own rearview mirror and I finally let go of this anger. I forgave, and not only has it improved my relationship with this loved one tremendously, it has also helped me to be happier.

Forgiveness can change your life.

Forgiveness does not mean you erase the past, or forget what has happened. It doesn’t even mean the other person will change his behavior — you cannot control that. All it means is that you are letting go of the anger and pain, and moving on to a better place.

It’s not easy. But you can learn to do it. It will not happen over night, but you must commit to changing because you know it’s best for you. I pray as you continue to press forward that you understand that with Christ Jesus you can do all things including: Putting down your rearview mirror and letting go of the past.

Keep the faith and stay encouraged.

Donell Maxie is a staff writer for The Bolivar Commercial He can be reached at 843-4241 or e-mail him at